When Parenting SUCKS!

“Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, financial, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood.”

I LOVE being a Mom, before I had thought about what I wanted to be when I grew up, I knew I wanted to be a Mommy. I love my kids with my whole heart all the time, however that doesn’t mean that at times I don’t feel overwhelmed by Parenting.

Right now, Parenting SUCKS and there’s nothing much I can do about it. Certain things are completely out of my control however they affect my little ones and that sucks.

Highlight / Lowlight / Summary of why Parenting sucks right now

  1. Joshuah’s sleeping

Little Joshuah, as sweet as he can be (which is not all the time) he is a terrible sleeper. From day one Josh would do short power naps throughout the day, and that was it. There was NO 2-3 hour stretches, his sleeping lasted 20 – 45min at a time and that was all he needed. This was draining and frustrating but soon we adapted and 2 years later not much has changed. So WE are sleep deprived and that sucks. On average (on a good night) Josh will wake up between 2 – 3 times, either to moan, or want his dummy which he is too lazy to get himself or will want to come to our bed. On a bad night he will wake up every 45 – 60 min and then its full on tantrum and he’s restless, and wants no one to touch him and screams and and and then he passes out. For no reason. THIS IS DRAINING. And the problem is when he wakes up (not by choice but by being woken) he is miserable, and it’s completely understandable because he is tired! I’m not too sure if you know what it’s like to deal with a miserable toddler / kid first thing in the morning. This however falls on solely on Carl as I leave earlier than them, some mornings its good and they happily chat and laugh but other mornings it’s a crying tantrum filled start to the day. Bless Carl’s heart, he deals with it so well.

Parenting sucks when you’re so exhausted and sleep deprived that you flip at the smallest things your kids do and then shout and swear and hours later feel like a dog because of the way you reacted. Depriving a person of sleep is a profound assault on the entire biological system at the foundation of that person’s mind and body.

  1. Joshuah’s schooling

Joshuah is attending the crèche which Danny attended. Logistically where they were situated was on our morning route and they staff were awesome and the school great, however they were leasing the premises and the owner had decided to sell the plot to a developer. This meant the school would be moving (this was in 2013). As far I know there was no meeting with Parents and the only communication I had received was a letter in the boys bags to say that they will be moving within the next month to new premises.

There was nothing I could but move with the school, which was / is COMPLETELY out of our way as Carl drops the boys in the morning and works in the Southern Subs. So he sits in traffic (±20 min) to get to Durbanville then sits in the peak hour traffic to make his way to N1 / R300.

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Last week we received another letter, 2 million guesses what’s happening AGAIN. Yip, the school is moving in December. Actually correction, they are combining, our school with one of their other branches. I’m so over it! Can you imagine, 2 schools who are operating at full capacity now having ALL those kids under 1 roof. Ugh! So from January this is what’s up. Now… we sit with the decision. Do we move him to a new school or keep him in this deurmekaar situation. Side note, I’m not a fan of the other branch but each to his own I guess.

Parenting sucks when you are forced into a situation like this again.

  1. Daniyal’s schooling

During Feb / March this year we applied at the 2 Primary schools within our area for Danny for Grade 1. A mere 2 and 3km away. However they advised me that we don’t fall into the direct feeder area (a big WTF) but we don’t fall out of their feeder area (double WTF), we fall into a grey area.

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Moral of the LONG story, we applied when applications like the rest of the world in the North and HE WASN’T ACCEPTED AT EITHER SCHOOL. For the record, there are NO other schools in our area. None. Unless you go into Bellville which is over the N1 and not in our area. According to those schools, we also don’t fall into their feeder area, and we’re 10 – 12km away from the closest Bellville school which by now are all jam packed full.

Following a discussion with a few parentals who will be attending these schools I found out that certain kids who reside in completely external areas out of the feeder zones etc. were accepted to the schools. The Mommy in me contacted the WCED and spoke to the Superintendent who deals with these schools (not about the other kids but because my kid doesn’t have anywhere to go next year) and I can assure you I will get NOWHERE with him. I completed the forms, in order for him to open an enquiry into the schools and when I called a week later he had still not made contact with either schools. He basically told me to wait till 16 November and contact the schools again, if I had no joy I should then make an appointment to see the Principals and we take it from there and if that didn’t work then he would contact the Principals. Hello, its already NOVEMBER. This is ridiculous.

The only other option we have is to put Danny in a Private school, which is what we have done but still waiting for feedback from them whether he was accepted. So please hold thumbs for us.

Parenting sucks when you have to deal with WCED and have no support and no one fighting for your child!

  1. Daniyal’s behaviour

Right now Danny has entered a challenging phase in his development, behaviour wise. It’s not that he’s acting out, it’s just that he doesn’t give a sh*t (sorry but I’m calling a spade a spade and not a tool with a sharp-edged, typically rectangular, metal blade and a long handle, used for digging or cutting earth, sand, turf) what anyone says lately. He’s irritable, he’s moody and not his normal happy behaving self. Strange!

Parenting sucks when you child looks straight at you and says, “NO” when you ask / tell / command / beg him to do something i.e. make your bed, pack away your toys, acknowledge your brother who’s been trying to get your attention for 5min and has now gone into full on tantrum mode because you won’t play / talk / look at him.

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  1. Daniyal’s behaviour at school

In the last 3 weeks I’ve received 2 calls from his teacher regarding his behaviour, personally I also think she could handle situations better and needs to realize when you have an overcrowded class, with many energetic boys they WILL play rough, they WILL be loud, they WILL all seek attention. It’s part of their development, in saying this however Danny has changed. And after the call yesterday I said to her, in the nicest possible way I could SHE needs to investigate what is happening in her class. On more than one occasion Danny has come home saying that boys in the class and aftercare are bullying him, teasing him and fighting with him and this is something I have addressed with her and the aftercare teachers previously. Following this call, she had a class talk about bullying. I mean really, she wanted to blame my Danny for being a fighter (ANYONE who knows Danny knows that this is rubbish) and like I pointed out to her, has this ever been an issue? No. Something must have triggered this. According to Danny, after many conversations, he said he’s not fighting but protecting himself, however I’m the parent who is called. Bull dust!

Then the nerve, a Parent actually approached my little 6 year old at the school to ask him about bullying, this made me FLIP and I explained to her that if I EVER hear that this has happened again I WILL PERSONALLY CONFRONT that Parent and I can ASSURE her that it will definitely not end well. Do not mess with my child. Ever. How dare an adult intimidate my 6 year old and then they only report it to me a day later. When I asked Danny he said that he didn’t say anything because he didn’t want me to get angry. All because the boys were doing a Chinese bangle (hold wrist firmly and with our 2 hands & kind of twist) and this little *insert rude word here* ran to his Mom and said Danny hurt him. I would never approach another kid without speaking to the teacher first and asking my kid to explain to me what happened. That’s just not on. So lady, if you ever stumble across this know that without a doubt in my mind I WILL CUT YOU, and you have no idea how intimidating I can be. Vent over.

Parenting sucks when you have a feeling that there’s a little *insert rude word here* boy (s) at his school that are bullying your kid and others but have no proof and you’ve discussed with the teacher and nothing happens except your kid gets blamed (yes Danny is sorry for punching your giant in the nuts last week but he was defending himself, yes Danny did choke your child yesterday but this is because your kid and his 2 friends held his arm and legs while another smacked him on his head but the teacher happened to not see this as always). We don’t condone fighting but we do encourage Danny to defend himself if he is being hurt or feels scared. So I will not punish my kid for doing exactly what we have told him to do.  

So right now, Parenting SUCKS! And Parenting has kicked me hard in the hypothetical balls, and left me frustrated, overwhelmed and helpless. But this is just a phase and I know it will pass, after all, everything happens for a reason.

Having FAITH and starting a small business

Taking a step IN faith!

Have you ever asked yourself the question, “Should I wait in Faith or Step out in Faith?”

For the last 2 years I have done just that. I’ve dreamt about starting my own business, something small, something manageable and something that means something to me.

I work well with balance, with structure and being comfortable. This has been fine, until now. Very recently I’ve been questioning myself, questioning where I see myself in the next 5 years, trying to work on my plan and one night before I fell asleep I thought, “Do I really want to live in my comfort zone for the rest of my life?”

Faith is more than just believing, Faith is actually taking the next step. I’m proud to say we have done just that, we’ve stepped out in faith and started our own little business, it may not always be easy but I know it will be worth it. We’re in our “New Season” and I could not ask for a better partner to be sharing this experience with. He is my biggest supporter, my fiercest critic and my absolute tower of strength. He challenges me to be my best, to do more and to go for what I want.

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A while back I read something on Instagram, “The key to success, is to start before you are ready”. I had a good chuckle and got my day started, not knowing that this was the start of our new journey.

The name for our business sort of just happened, welcome to the world “Love Made Me”.

This is our new baby, our creation, and just with a new baby we need your support.

Please feel free to drop me a mail at heygirl@lovemademe.co.za for all your baby printing needs. We do customized sublimation printing on baby Onesies (growers and vest). If there’s something you’ve seen, if you have an idea, we’ll do our best to accommodate you. Alternatively you can have a look at our Facebook page for recent projects. Email me for pricing options. Postage can be arranged at an additional cost, or if you’re Cape Town based you can always collect.

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We all have to start somewhere, and this is our somewhere.

Is there something you’ve been dreaming about? Something you want to do?

Let me know!

#officiallyamomtrepreneur

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Win with Tiny Tribe Kids and What Happened to my body

Good Morning Lovelies,

Following my post yesterday reviewing the Tiny Tribe Kids leggings I purchased last month for Josh, I’m here today with a BIG SURPRISE!!!!!!!!!!!!

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You could be the lucky winner of a pair of Tiny Tribe Kids leggings for your child or a niece / nephew / grandchild / godchild / futurechild – ANYONE!

Competition will run from Wednesday, 22 July to Sunday, 26 July and the winner will be announced on Monday, 27 July.

So, what are you waiting for???? Go and enter!

Competition only open to SA residents living in this Country, sorry.

Leggings sizes (Age 0 – 4 years only).

Enter via LINK TO THE RIGHT

Rafflecopter – a Rafflecopter giveaway

Tiny Tribe Kids

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As I have mentioned before, I am obsessed with all things cute for little people.

For as long as I can remember I’ve had the obsession for little people, not in the politically correct / incorrect sense but in the little human sense.

From pregnancy to when they’re old enough to fight with the powers that be, I love kids. More so my own, but I love them.

Keeping them looking somewhat stylish and yet comfortable has been one of my many parenting goals for both my boys. I say somewhat as I’m definitely not the most “On trend, trend forward” Mom as clothing needs to be practical. They need to work for both boys and they’re busy lives. Skinny jeans may look great on your kiddie but on mine who is not a fan of denim (or ruff fabric as Danny says) due to it being tight, uncomfortable, hard and many other excuses it doesn’t work. Then we have the second challenge, both my boys are narrow waisted. They’re not skinny or underfed, they’re growing and developing beautifully, so when we typically buy Age 5 – 6 for Danny and Age 1 – 2 for Josh, the length is always spot on however the waist requires a belt, or drawstring which is a schlep. Belts more so because I’m the one who has to ensure its tied at all times.

Then I stumbled across Tiny Tribe kids and decided to give their leggings a go for Josh. I’m a BIG fan of leggings for boys, age appropriate of course (I don’t in the future see Danny or Carl wanting to wear leggings), they’re versatile, user friendly, cost effective, comfortable and stylish. After mailing Linda and placing my order which took 2 weeks give or take to arrive as all items are made to order I jumped in my car and went to collect (a road away from my Mom, can you believe how small the world is). I was blown away by the quality of the items and more importantly that they FIT! Happy dance all around for this Mommy.

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She has also since launched new items to their range which are just too adorable and combo deals, and then the bigger plus she’s a MOMTREPRENEUR! Something I would love to be (totally jealous of you right now), but I also love the security of my regular paycheck monthly.

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Never heard of Tiny Tribe Kids clothing before, where have you been. Go and show them some love on Facebook

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A bit about Linda and how this company came about,

“I come from a clothing background, study a BTech in Clothing Management.

Starting this business wasn’t my first as I had a range of ladies clothing which was stocked in a few boutiques across SA. After that I embarked on a new business venture and bought an evening wear hiring boutique in Durbanville, which I ran for 2 years. But after falling pregnant with my son, I wanted to be a bit more flexible. The shop kept me quite busy and with retail, the hours aren’t very flexible. So I sold the shop and focused on my family.

Clothing shopping after my son was born was frustrating, there wasn’t a wide selection in stores. These baggy, character print, brightly colour garments just weren’t working for me.

Coming from the clothing background, the production part was easy. But finding nice printed fabric was a nightmare. I just couldn’t find what I wanted anywhere. So I decided to print my own fabric.

I taught myself how to screen print by watching MANY YouTube video tutorials, speaking to screen printing suppliers and LOTS of practice.

And that’s how Tiny Tribe Kids was born.

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I really love what I do, and I’m really lucky that I have a Husband that supports my dream to do what I love, while still being able to be there for our Son.

I guess you can say I really do have the best of both worlds.”

You can place your orders the following ways:

Email: tinytribekids@gmail.com
Call: +27 073 6444 222

I LOVE MOMTREPRENEURS!

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If you have your own business or know of a great Mom run business please let me know and I’ll check it out.

Till Later
LT

Kids fashion, my little obsession

Let me start off by acknowledging the fact that I have a problem, I have 2 guilty pleasures which take up quite a bit of my Pinterest browsing.

These are makeup and kids fashion.

I’m by no way a fashionista or expert, I am merely a Mommy who loves following whats in and out for kids. I also don’t always follow these or run out and buy what Harpers Bazaar says is in.

I do however like looking at whats out there and drawing some inspiration with my own kids. Shopping for boys can sometimes be so hard, there is definitely not the variety available as wide for boys that there is girls. But here and there you get a piece that just works, from both higher end brands as well as more affordable options. I love when a budget friendly store like i.e. Mr Price keeps with trends out there for kids.

In saying this I thought I’d share some of my fashion loves for kids this winter thanks to hours spent on Pinterest.

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I’m obsessed with leggings for both girls and boys, snoods, beanies and moccasins. I think these are versatile for both winter and summer and can be dressed both up and down for any occasion. Kids should look stylish but also still remain kids, I’m not too much of a fan of the “mini me” version of items for adults and kids. These little people still need to look like kids at the end of the day, sweet innocent little munchkins.

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If you have a similar love of kiddies fashion feel free to follow me on Pinterest or suggest a board I should follow. I’d love that!

Happy Pinning!

Also, I thought I’d share some outfit inspiration for little ones. Use what you have in your kids cupboard and build up from there. There’s some great SA brands which have come to the party in a BIG way with kids fashion and they’re keeping with the average Joe’s budget. Big win for me!

Today I’m just sharing some Mr Price fashion faves.

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If you loving the legging trend & graphic tees and wanting to support local ladies then check out :

Tiny Tribe Kids

Panda and Frost

 

Have a fashionable Thursday
LT

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