Have you noticed since becoming an adult, after college, working, after getting married and having your kids that starting a relationship is harder. I’m not meaning a relationship in the sense of a couple, but more along the lines of friendships.
When you’re studying or travelling you’re surrounded by like-minded people and hence the friendships just form. Moving to a company and hereto you form certain relationships, some class them as “work friendships” and others are genuine friendships.
Now move along to getting married, your friends and his friends become “Our friends” and after a while your friendship circle decreases drastically, if this doesn’t refer to you then stop reading.
Now you have the wonderful chance to start over, BUT you soon realize that starting a new friendship is hard! When do you meet new people and how do you meet people.
Well, over the years I’ve been a sucky friend, I admit. There’s certain friendships I should NEVER have let go and others that I’m so much better off without.
My aim (not goal) is to a better friend going forward into the new year. I will love and work towards growing the ones I have, rather be a AWESOME friend to 10 than a sucky friend to 100!
So I’ve made it easy and summed it all up, these are the kinds of friends you need in your life going forward, in my opinion. Please feel free to add to my list.
- The Intellectual Mentor
Intellectual friends pose thought-provoking questions about work, life, children, education, love, and how all of those things work together. They motivate you to be more and do more. This friend is someone who’s a few steps ahead of you in life and has enough wisdom and patience to guide you in the right direction.
- The Fun Friend
They never fail to make you smile, they’re always up for a challenge. These friends bring out the carefree kid in you. They want you to relax, have a good time, and forget about the stress in your life.
- The Mom Friend
She is the one who probably has your back more than most, she is loving, compassionate, protective and will always be there for you, however she’s going to be the most brutally honest friend you have (in a loving and caring way obviously) but its only because she really cares about you. She is the one you text when you’re having a bad day. She can tell you need a hug without you uttering a word. She forces you to think through all your decisions, and she always knows best (but let’s be honest, you don’t always listen).
- The Listener
They know your motivation, your goals, and your life. Listeners are selfless, compassionate, and caring. They’re givers. You’ve won the friendship lotto if they’re married to one of the other friends (refer to my numbers people, either 1, 2, 3, 5, 6, 7, 8)
- The Inspirational one
The inspiration motivates you to be yourself, work hard, and be selfless. These are the friends who will do great things, they will speak up for themselves and make a difference in the world.
- The Adventurer
This is the one who travels the world, teaches you about new places, new cultures. Broadens your thinking. This can be a work friend, a colleague.
- Your Polar Opposite
Its great to have like-minded friends but every now and then you need one friend who has different beliefs, different values, well they’re completely opposite to you. They challenge you, positively.
Going into 2016, ditch these kinds of friends
- The friend who always brings all her problems to you always, the one you avoid when your phone rings
- The one who always wants to be better than you, with everything, in everything
- The friend who always lets you down
Parting note… Making friends, no matter what age, IS HARD!
Till Later or whenever