What I learnt as a Single Mommy

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Once upon a time before I started dating my now Husband I was a single Mommy.

It seems and feels like a lifetime ago when in reality it was just 4 years.

I made the decision to be a single Mom when Daniyal was just 3 months old and it was the best thing I could ever have done for not only me but also my son. I know to some this may seem selfish but if you had known the circumstances and situation which led me to that point you would applaud my choice.

Well at first I went through the challenge of how do I do this alone, granted I had an amazing support system (parents, siblings, friends) but I was still woman alone and that frightened the hell out of me.

When the fear subsided it was replaced by a sense of being overwhelmed. All day every day.

Once that had settled I realized my son was almost a year and I had wasted so much time worrying about finances, work, the lack of a parent, strong male role models, “babying” Danny so much that I almost missed all the great things which was happening.

Some things which I realized from my 2 years of going at it alone was :

1. Yes, it is hard. It is stressful and challenging but you are never alone.
2. Surround yourself with family and friends, you never know when you may need to call on them. Do not let pride stand in your way.
3. Sometimes it’s ok to have a bad Mommy / Daddy day, you don’t have to be perfect all the time.
4. You need to let your child just enjoy being a child, don’t discuss adult problems with them (its just too much for them to handle).
5. You don’t need to be so protective, ease up. Just relax.
6. Ask for help, even Superheroes have assistance.
7. Make Mommy friends (I still battle with this).
8. Enjoy your childs childhood, make memories. Before you know it they’ll be all grown up.

Till later
LT