As you may have guessed from my picture – we’re having a little GIRL!
Mothers of children of the same gender will understand me. The comments start when you’re pregnant – “Shame maybe this time will be a little girl.” When you’re pregnant, the most important thing on your mind, is having a healthy baby. Worrying about the baby’s sex / gender (I’m trying to be so politically correct that I actually don’t know what to refer to it as) should NOT be the main concern. I understand that some people do experience gender disappointment and I don’t want to offend those people at all but top priority should always be a healthy pregnancy and healthy Mommy and Baby.
I wanted to write this post as soon as we found out but rather chose to wait – why?
- We wanted to privately process the news that we’d be expecting a little girl. As you know we have 2 sons, all we know how to do is be boy parents. So the news of welcoming a little girl was a surprise. A good one, a great one but one that required some processing.
- I needed to know that all was well on the baby front. So far all our appointments have been perfect, baby girl’s growth is looking marvelous according to our Doctor. As with my previous pregnancy I bled a bit during the first and early second trimester. With the history we had it made me a little hesitant to shout our news from the roof tops. Any soon to be Mom would be taken aback by this but apparently this is just what my body does.
- We wanted to wait for the right time to share our news.
- Celebrate this pregnancy journey. The journey to our previous pregnancy wasn’t easy. I was poked, prodded, tested, medicated and scanned monthly. Eventually we celebrated with a positive pregnancy test but sadly suffered a pregnancy loss which ended in a D & C which ripped me apart and broke my husbands heart. It was hard and the road to recovery was harder. But the light at the end of the tunnel was finding out we were pregnant again. Sadly looking back now, I stressed for the majority of the pregnancy. I think that this is just a side effect of having suffered a loss, I wasn’t always present and missed finding the joy in the midst of healing.
We are forever changed by our loss, but God’s timing and plan is perfect. Please know that you are worthy and wonderful, and your loss and struggles do not define you!
The funny thing about finding out the sex of this baby was that I KNEW with every fibre of my being that this would be a little girl. Crazy I know, Mothers intuition possibly but 100% GOD ordained.
13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
So now that the news has finally sunken in, we’ve processed and excited for this new chapter I thought I’d share some of the reasons I’m looking forward to having a little girl in our home.
- The Father Daughter relationship (hey I’m a Daddy’s Girl and proud of it)
- Raising a fierce woman of worth
- Watching the boys dote over their little sister
- The conversations we’ll have
- The chance to be her role model
- Tutu’s, Crowns and Makeup obviously
On the update front, Daddy finally felt his little girl kick for the first time (this little one had to kick hard to make her presence known as she’s battling with lots of Mommy layers).
I’ve also caved and finally bought my first pink item (decor related) – I’m more of a black and white girl. Baby Girls first dresses and tutu’s are all black and white so adding a pop of pink seemed appropriate.
I still have so much to learn about being a Mom to a little girl, some of which I can read up on and some things I’ll just have to learn in the moment. But as usual if you have any tips on going from raising boys to adding a little girl to the mix let me know.