Let me start off by apologizing for being so quiet – not that you really care but still – I have manners. But damn, Guys I AM TIRED!
There have been various factors which have kept me from blogging on the regular lately and I’m not making excuses or looking for sympathy but Mom life has been kicking my butt big time, like Mortal Kombat and I’m on the verge of getting my KO!
Between being sick for what seemed like forever (ok only a month) and work being extremely busy (my day job and not my business – which has been SOOOOO quiet because I haven’t had the time, money or energy to focus on it) the Hubs also had an operation and is currently at home resting. It has been hectic!
On the home front the boys are great, naughty little shits but they’re good. School is good, Danny my super over achiever once again received an outstanding report at the end of the 3rd term and has decided he would like to be a game designer when he is big, Josh on the other hand has decided he wants to be a banana (runs out to cancel his education policy).
Behaviour wise, well that could use some work from all of us. I don’t know if there’s a full moon or blood moon or no moon but the kids lately are starting to lose their shit for no apparent reason which is utterly draining. In trying to be proactive Parents and address the behavior challenges of late we’ve been doing a lot of communicating about feelings and speaking through our frustrations which seems to be helping a tiny bit and for some fun we have also added reward stickers for not being an ass basically and doing their chores.
Josh has learnt that using the toilet gets rewarded with stickers for his chart and when he has 5 his reward will be a Barni bear (this kid is obsessed) and that has been going well thus far.
But the sleep reward line has been blank since we started. I am yet to have my kid sleep through the night and in his own bed. Seriously, what am I doing wrong!
Our bedtime routine is as follows (perhaps you can share some ideas and give some constructive feedback):
- Supper time (which is mostly a fight and I’ve run out of ideas and recipes and time is of the utmost essence)
- Bath time which he loves
- PJ’s and prayer time, another winner
- Feeding time (YAY our 3 year journey of breastfeeding has finally ended in September)
- Bedtime – Josh says good night, climbs into his own bed, we switch on his starry night light and I sit in the rocker and wait, and wait and wait, and shout, and threaten and wait and then he’s asleep.
But within 2 – 3 hours he is awake, and then sprints to our bed with all his blankets and sleeps in between us. I have done the taking him back to his room 5 times a night every night and it has just left me exhausted the next day and miserable.
This has been our routine for almost 2 years and not even my full coverage concealer can hide the dark circles anymore, I am finished. I just don’t know what to do.
So this is me, reaching out to the big wide world of Mommies and Daddies and asking for help. Please guys, all I need is a good nights rest and for Josh to sleep in his own bed all night – poor Hubs is recovering from surgery and still getting kicked in the face every night.
I have also very recently started exercising again, drinking water (which doesn’t suck as much anymore) and I’m trying to look after myself just a little bit more since hitting 30, and no one wants a frumpy Mommy.
Don’t forget, you can follow me on my social media accounts to see what we’re up to and also read my 2 cents worth of info on BabyGroup on the regular (I’ll also be doing my first vlog piece for them in the next few weeks which is very scary).
Being a Parent comes with its ups and downs, there will be good times and there will be times you regret – any Parent that says no is lying and yet I will still never change it for the world. It’s challenging at the best of times and its fine to agree that kids sometimes suck but I love my little family, the only thing I still need is a damn decent good night’s sleep.
Peace, I’m out!