A recap or summary of Gracey’s birth
13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
04 November 2018 | The night before
The night before Grace’s birth we were up late, preparing lunches for the kids, packing their bag for their stay at my Mom’s place and gathering the last of our hospital essentials.
I took a shower and was instructed to scrub myself and wash my hair with chlorhexidine which was new since my last birth. Carl and I chatted a bit about how the day would go, I opened up a bit about my anxiety of being away from him and the kids and being a Mom to a newborn again.
Before bed I checked my hospital bag one last time, checked Gracey’s bag and then cuddled up with Carl before heading to bed.
Surprisingly enough I thought I would not sleep well that night, be it due to nerves or excitement but I think my body knew what was to come and I slept well. I didn’t even get up during the night to wee which by this point was happening every hour.
05 November 2018 | The morning of
As per usual routine we woke up at 06:00am and started our day, got the boys up, dressed and fed and chatted to them about what was happening later that day. Everyone was on a high, in a few short hours we’d be parents to 3 kids and the boys would finally have their little sister they’d been praying for. The nerves had subsided and they were replaced with absolute happiness.
We arrived at the hospital after 09:00am where I was admitted to the Maternity Ward (for those that don’t know, I actually work at this hospital – so it was really just a home away from home) to the same room where Joshy was born. I was met with the biggest smiles and friendly faces as the nursing team did my admission and all their checks before I needed to jump into the shower and do my second round of chlorhexidine.
I was calm until this point, nerves had taken a hold of me and I was shaking. I couldn’t quite figure out if it was nerves or a surge of adrenaline pumping through my body. Bless my husbands gentle heart he reassured me that everything would be perfect and in a few short hours we’d be holding our precious little girl.
What is Grace?
Grace is the love of God shown to the unlovely; the peace of God given to the restless; the unmerited favor of God.
I realize that so many people have had negative experiences with cesarean births, for me that wasn’t the case, and I was blessed to have an extremely positive experience with my daughter’s birth.
Being wheeled into theatre is always such an intimidating experience for me. Unfortunately I was not able to have Carl with me while my spinal was placed and I know for many women, this is a vulnerable part of the birthing process but for me it was different. I had a Doctor which I adored holding me close to her chest while the Anesthetist placed my spinal in, and soon Carl was right by my side again and we were ready to have a baby.
The Birth plan
I had previously discussed my birth plan with my Doctor and she lovingly agreed that as far as possible she would accommodate our wishes during the birth. Praise be, she did just that.
For the most part of the surgery I was chatting to Carl while our Doctors (I was blessed enough to have 3 super duper awesome OBGYN’s in Theatre and an amazing Paed) alternated in taking some pics. There are some very graphic ones which I will save you all from but I honestly love them, every single step / minute is documented in pictures.
Within minutes I felt a bit of jostling and tugging while the Doctors worked behind the drapes and at this point my darling Husband stood up to watch – then sat back down as the pulling and pushing and prodding was just a tad to graphic for him.
And then I heard the most beautiful cry… She was here…
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
Immediately after birth
Things went a little bit wobbly after she arrived and there were some issues with my healing and my health but I would do it all over again in a heartbeat for this little girl.
That post birth glow and adrenaline rush kept me awake and on a high for the next 24 hours. Night one I opted to keep Grace with me and not send her to the nursery just so that I could stare at her all night.
As far as my body I’m a strong believer in mobilizing yourself as soon as possible following your birth – once you’re given the go ahead by your clinical team ask them for assistance and get up. It will be challenging at first but I believe it helps to start the healing process.
I’m still taking it day by day and I’m happy to report that health wise we’re doing good. All I needed was rest, time to heal and trust my body with the process and some good medication.
Having a newborn in the house has been a big adjustment to our little tribe and there have definitely been some tears but life has never been this good.